Just because you fail does not mean you are a failure.
Seth Godin preaches this mantra. I do not know why I only began to grasp that idea after hearing it from him when the Scripture preaches the same thing. In Christ we can begin again. We can fail and try again.
I have lived most of my life up until recently consciously or subconsciously feeling like a failure because I failed at some point. I’m changing that.
I have failed many times. I am divorced, something I never dreamed would happen. Does that make me a failure? No. I surely took the long route to learning some things, but God takes me right where I am and those failures have no power over me.
In college I entered the piano concerto competition twice at the University of Florida and once at the state MTNA level and lost all three times. Does that make me a failure? No. I played some fabulous music and learned a lot about myself in the process.
Several times I have raised my voice at my two wonderful boys. Does that make me a failure? No. I am human and I do not always manage my frustrations well.
The beauty of the Gospel is that I am allowed to learn by failing, not just by succeeding. In fact, in some weird twist of reality, I find that I learn more from my mistakes than from my successes.
If you struggle with accepting yourself and your failures, read The Ragamuffin Gospel by Brennan Manning.
From a business standpoint I recommend anything by Seth Godin. He will help you understand the value of failure in the practical things of life.
How do deal with failure?